philosophy

great expectations

I'm going to let you in on a little secret: things are not always how they appear.

One of the things the human brain does is notice patterns. It's how we think more and more efficiently. When we do this, we require fewer cognitive resources to process our world. Synapses get pruned. Automaticity increases. Our information superhighway starts rolling along at 75 miles per hour.

What happens when the pattern we have decided upon is mistaken or wrong? In a word: cognitive chaos. Yes, I know that's two words. I'm advocating for cognitive flexibility --think of saying "a word" and then giving you two as limbering up. 

Try this experiment we do with kids to teach them about expectations: 

  • Without any witnesses, get a box of something awesome --chocolates, candy, whatever you want.
  • Take the awesome stuff out. You can eat it all yourself if you want to be like that, but I would set it aside to hand out later so you don't get shivved.
  • Replace it with something boring or decidedly not awesome --cockroaches, bills, whatever you want.
  • Then find a person who hasn't observed you doing this replacement and hand the box to them.

Yes, it's the old can of nuts-springy snake trick, but at this point, people expect the snake, so you have to get creative to be effective.

Do you think the person you hand the box to will expect a treat or a trick? You have given them a box that promises something they like and then reneged on this promise. (Incidentally, this works in reverse as well, if you put something they like in a box of something they dislike, only they'll avoid it rather than open it up.)

Things don't always go as planned. Remember to keep those great expectations flexible while you're roaring along. Confront your own prejudices. Reconsider your assumptions. And have a great day --I haven't put anything unpleasant in that box.